Stupidity never ends.

I’ve tried being nice. I’ve tried being proactive. I’ve tried ignoring it. Nothing has worked.

My main email address is with Gmail. I was an early adopter when it first came out so I’ve had the same address for over 15 years now. For the first few years it was…


It may go dormant for a while but is always waiting to run you over again.

When you’ve lost someone that you love, life becomes a minefield. You hear someone say their name, hear your song, smell a scent that you associate with them, or your mind just wanders to a random memory and your day is ruined. …


I’m still not back to normal.

It has been a month since I was diagnosed with COVID-19 and I still am not entirely well. Before I continue, let me state clearly that I know how lucky I am to have only had a moderate case. …


A side effect of an abusive childhood can make you far too tolerant of chaos.

I grew up with a neglectful and abusive mother. Because she was also hugely disorganized, my life was often chaotic. Everything was done last minute with no planning or organization. It was a running family joke that every holiday required at least one trip to the local drugstore to get…


Some weird stuff has been going on around here this month.

In our family, we put up the Christmas decorations on Black Friday. This year being what it has been, we decided to change up our decorations and do more with lights. …


As shocking as it may seem, people live in their homes.

Twice in less than a day, I have had to deal with the same lack of consideration issue. People loudly yacking outside their apartments with their phones on speaker.

When I first moved in here, I struggled with having to hear people’s private stuff.

But I’ve gotten used to it…


Your depression wants to make functioning as hard as possible, but here are a few tips to help make it a little easier.

The world is very difficult right now for those of us who have depression and anxiety. If ever there was a time when outside factors are weighing us down, it is now. The pandemic with its fear, idiots in denial, sociopaths who don’t care who they harm, and economic destruction…


Two examples of selfish parents who probably think they love their kids.

I have these neighbors who have a deteriorating relationship. Originally it was the husband, wife, and two kids living there. I guess now it is over now because just the husband is there.

I’ve lived here about a year and a half and their fights have gotten worse and the…


When something gets linked in your mind with a bad experience, it can be very difficult to unlink them.

The year 2018 was a rough one for me. My boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the year and he died in early November. As 2019 dawned, I was in a very sad place emotionally. I decided to try and make myself feel better by starting a…


Your mind is going to fight you every step of the way.

Despite the fact that novelty will draw your attention, consistency is what your brain craves. It hates change. Once your mind has settled into a pattern, breaking that pattern is very difficult. The beliefs fed to you by your abuser is just such a pattern.

Your brain is not great…

Heather Ashman

Writer. Single mother to transgender son. Still grieving the death of my partner. Lifelong fighter of depression and anxiety. M.A. in Human Behavior.

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